If you notice an excess of emotion, that's a red flag.
What exactly it means needs to be figured out, but rest assured—if it's not a pathology, then there's definitely some disruption.
Examples:
Your innocent comment triggers aggression from a business partner.
A client goes silent for a long time after your technical request.
A driver in a neighboring car starts acting nervously on the road.
Watching a conflict among animals makes you physically sick.
An acquaintance suddenly bares her soul on social media.
I have a habit of jotting down such events in the evening. The most striking ones are worth analyzing with a therapist. But even minor incidents can, over time, form a pattern that carries meaning.
What kind of meaning? Excess emotion indicates a loss of balance:
in yourself.
in another person.
in a group or society.
in your relationship with them.
in the environment in general.
If a person slips, he not only cries out and flails his arms, but he might also drop things, hurt someone nearby, fall, get injured, and then blame someone for it.
In other words, the level of chaos rises, and that means trouble is coming.
It’s time to turn on your vigilance and curiosity. Each such incident is a crack in the structures of social conventions, the camouflage of culture, and personal lies. You instantly learn a lot about the person, society, the world, and, of course, yourself.
You better treasure these gifts of fate.
Sincerely yours,
-Alexander
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