The business founder thanked me for the session and asked,
"What did you do that in just one hour I had a complete change of perspective?"
I pondered deeply because I wanted to give an honest answer,
"I tried to help you see things as they really are."
It's tough to do, and impossible to do completely.
But even with some progress, there's a turning point.
And it doesn't matter if the revealed reality inspires or upsets you.
Amid the pile of clever but useless concepts, interpretations, and thoughts, we now have something that cannot be denied.
At this stage, I usually hear a sigh of relief from the client, even though the solution is not apparent yet.
The client nods in agreement as I choose my words carefully to describe his (or her) reality as I see it.
My Challenge #1 - lose myself in the process, not bringing anything of my own.
Challenge #2 - speak with respect, delicacy, and warmth. Reality can sting when voiced with icy words.
Challenge #3 - hear exactly what the person is trying to say with his whole being, without uttering a word. When I manage to describe it, he feels like he's remembered something crucial about himself.
By the way, this explains why the "new" perspective on the problem feels so familiar to the person. He better understoods himself.
When the perception of self-in-situation fundamentally changes, solutions begin to hatch on their own. The secret is that they were always at hand. Now your fingers have touched them.
Sincerely yours,
-Alexander
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As a business therapist, I help tech founders quickly solve dilemmas at the intersection of business and personality, and boost company value as a result.
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