Who Are You? / by Alexander Lyadov

Today, a worthy opponent choked me out in the first minute of our jiu-jitsu match. It stings, especially since I knew his signature move.

Half a day has passed, but the frustration is still bubbling inside. It feels like the training session went to waste.

Of course, that's not true.

Winning or losing is a false indicator.

The true indicator is that I got up this morning, did my planned work, and walked away unharmed.

In other words, I moved forward in every way:
- Strengthened a good habit, despite being tired, grumpy, and lazy.
- Trained promising moves with a partner, enhancing my style.
- Several matches provided cardio and strength training, and relieved stress.
- Focusing on safety allowed me to stay in the Game.
- My pride got a humbling lesson: “Who do you think you are?”

So, I won globally, even though locally, I lost.

Notice, I had to remind myself what's truly important to me and what isn't.
Otherwise, my fragile Ego takes the wheel and interprets the situation in its favor.

The Ego is just a part of me, like my subconscious or body.

So, who am I then?

I am the Curiosity that watches Alexander lose and win, lose and win...

Sincerely yours,

-Alexander


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