Truly big changes rarely happen all at once.
Look at how reluctantly winter leaves. The sun is already shining with confidence, the grass is bursting green, the birds are singing cheerfully.
And yet winter does not go quietly. Before the curtain falls, it throws in a couple of tricks. So sharp that we begin to doubt: “What if winter is here forever?”
The same thing happens with an opponent in a fight. You’ve broken him mentally, you’re pressing hard, you’re winning on points. But be ready for his sudden explosions. Yes, it’s agony — but that agony can still catch you off guard.
The most desired changes in therapy happen in bursts:
3 steps forward, 2 steps back. It looks like Δ+1, yet it feels like a dead end.
In artificial systems, you can just flip a switch. Living systems change reluctantly, in a constant push-and-pull.
It makes sense. Life knows that not every change is for the better. Winter and spring pull on the same rope: “Prove it.”
Remember this the next time despair hits you: “It’s all pointless. Nothing is changing.”
The change is there — it’s just timid.
Be patient. Give it time.
Sincerely yours,
-Alexander
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