The urge to speak out chases two goals at least.
First, to unload everything piled up inside. It’s a release for the mind. The “receiver” could be anyone—a spouse, kids, another driver in traffic, a cat, even a lamppost.
Like lightning, all it needs is something to conduct the charge.
The other goal? To be heard and understood. A parent, friend, or therapist—none will do if he can’t grasp the meaning you’re trying to convey.
The first case is easy. Most talks are like that. Hardly communication at all. People don’t listen—they wait to dump their excess baggage off themselves.
So it’s not surprising that folks hide their souls. What’s shocking is that anyone opens up at all. Even if someone offers full attention, there’s a bigger hurdle.
Few can handle you as you are. Instinct stays cautious for a reason. Your raw truth might unsettle, upset, tempt, spark envy, or scare someone.
Why? Those traits live in the shadow of his or her soul. Unprocessed, the traits are seen not in them but in you, stirring up fierce emotions. Many crack under pressure.
You’d love to bare your soul, but their fragility kills the point.
Truth is, I’ve met only a handful of “unbreakable” people. You could tell them anything, and in return, you’d feel — no fear, no judgment, no shock.
My God, the freedom in that moment! Masks fall, defenses drop, like pulling a plastic bag off a sprouting seed. Energy surges, and a certainty grows: you can do anything.
Such people are rare, their work is quiet, but their impact is huge. In a pitch-black stormy night, one lighthouse saves many ships. What if it’s a network of lighthouses, growing stronger?
Sincerely yours,
-Alexander
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