What makes a street fight dangerous?
There is no referee.
More precisely, there will be one, but too late and only in a legal sense.
You need a third party who can stop the fight in time. Someone not tied to either side. Someone rational amid the chaos of emotions.
A person in a fight is unlikely to be self-aware, unless he is a professional. Archetypal aggression floods the Ego. He becomes almost possessed.
That is why the internet is full of videos where, even after one person loses consciousness, the other keeps jumping on him or kicking him in the head. A wild beast has awakened within, and there's no trainer around to call it off.
Paradoxically, grapplers suffer more injuries in their home gym than in competition. While the coach is distracted for a moment, an ordinary sparring match suddenly turns into an apocalyptic showdown.
Remember the classic film Highlander? “There can be only one.”
The same logic applies to inner conflict. A human personality contains different aspects whose interests often do not align. Someone higher is needed to shout:
“Enough! Break!”
Only then is there a chance that peace, even temporary, can settle inside.
Sincerely yours,
-Alexander
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