There's a cruel irony in how a man blocks himself.
Seems great he's got the intent to change. He wants it, can do it, should do it. Just point where to apply the force!
He devours books. He goes through training after training. Impatience burns him inside: “So when already? When will I finally change?”
But no. Reality will disappoint him. Transformation doesn’t work that way.
The brake is his own excessive desire to change all at once.
How? Why? What the hell?
Simple — he mixed up the worlds. Let me explain.
In everyday life, things are more or less predictable. That’s why focus, willpower, and discipline work there. You push harder and get what you want.
The trouble is, without noticing, he crossed into Other territory. Different laws rule here. And he himself is different, too. His old patterns, approaches, and skills are useless here, or worse, they ruin everything.
Acceleration is now the most dangerous and pointless move. Wisdom lies in stopping and looking around. Calming down. Checking resources. Letting your eyes adjust to the dark.
You need at least a hypothesis for how to survive in this new environment. Ideally, you learn the nature of this Other world and its rules of behavior. Only then can you hope, over time, to turn from a snail into a cheetah.
Most important of all, you need an inner fulcrum. Old you crumbled—needs rebuild. New you wakes, but not from impatience, force, violence. Give him time.
By the way, better you do it conscious. Or subconscious steps in, halts you with injury or illness.
Takeaway: Sometimes, to speed the changes you crave, slow them down.
Sincerely yours,
-Alexander
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