The hardest thing is holding uncertainty inside yourself.
Time is pressing. Tangible results are increasingly needed. At a glance, there are a few obvious options. It seems simple. Just pick one and go.
But no. Inside, something shakes its head: “This isn’t it.”
Also, the body remembers past mistakes. Those paths once looked reasonable too, yet every time they led to a dead end.
Feels like it’s a crisis of meaning. In reality, it’s a crisis of form.
With your whole being, you know exactly WHAT you need. And while the desperate search goes on, you live in a paradoxical state: the content is already there, but the right vessel for it is not yet.
This "stupid" phase—feels like an era—is well known to creative people. The birth of something new inevitably passes through the pain of trying on form after form. Quick Eurekas are rare.
Sad truth: most of us last touched real creation as kids. Since then, we've drilled hard at picking the "right" answer fast—from the shelf of ready picks, the one the Significant Other approves.
That’s why we freeze and suffer when a true inner pull hits—for something that's really ours. All the skills we’ve mastered turn out to be useless—or even harmful.
Like drunks or babies, we crave to walk but can't take the step.
Key: Tell yourself:
“Ease up. It is fine. This is how it goes. Emptiness is my ally. Splash around in the fog of not-knowing a bit longer. I won’t miss the true form when it arrives.”
Sincerely yours,
-Alexander
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