Love is letting the Other be.
We're talking otherness in anything or anyone, including yourself.
It's easy to root for what's familiar and predictable. Safety and comfort slide in without a fight. That's the womb-bubble: all for you, no one but you.
Different story when you trip over otherness.
For example:
Sudden events wreck what you've built.
A man turns out nothing like the one you thought.
You've got urges that shame or scare you just to name.
Right away come irritation, anxiety, disappointment, pain, and anger. You lose control, and then you lose peace. Where there is a wound, there is death, right?
Yes — but it is not you who dies. Only your opinions, convictions, and fantasies. If they're thick and dear, goodbye turns to torment.
And what does Otherness offer in return?
The world’s unpredictability makes your play with it alive.
People's differences let them stun and spark each other.
Your "black hole" ends up a horn of plenty.
Feels like a fair trade to me. You?
Yours sincerely,
-Alexander
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