Each of us is a patchwork of selves. Some parts we secretly love—or even show off in public. But others we despise so deeply, we almost forget they exist.
And yet, those rejected parts are still there. We’re not indifferent to them. Just watch your emotional reaction when someone or something suddenly drags them up from the depths.
This status quo keeps the personality from feeling whole. You live with a faint sense of lack—and an inner war. You can outlaw a part of yourself, but you can’t destroy it. So the guerrilla fight drags on for decades in the dark forest within.
Such a person becomes like a closed system. And according to the laws of thermodynamics, entropy keeps rising. The mind tangles, the body breaks, the soul suffers. Time runs out. Talent goes to waste.
Can a closed system fix itself? Can a person truly self-heal? Given that you’d need to reverse long-established relationships inside yourself by 180 degrees, the odds aren’t great.
Even when it seems someone has changed on his own, it usually comes from an astonishing encounter with Another.
That person gives you living proof that your rejected part isn’t cursed or evil. He sees not your flaw, but wow-fullness. That new way of relating begins the healing within.
Why can he do what feels impossible to you? Simple—he once lived through something just like it.
Once healed, you too will help others—with your word, your presence, your gaze.
Yours sincerely,
-Alexander
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