Is thirty years a lot or a little? For humanity, it’s a blink. For a family? It’s so vast it’s hard to grasp: “Was it really Marina and me who chose this road back in 1995?”
But years alone don’t earn bragging rights. If the bond sours, if two souls grow distant, if dependency chains them, marriage becomes a prison on Alcatraz.
It’s not about the years. It’s about the quality of being “you + me.” A wise psychologist once said marriage is a rare chance to work on yourself. You can’t find a perfect match, but you can try to build one.
It’s one thing to dream of a fairy-tale princess—or prince—who guesses your every wish, stands by you always, and never stops inspiring, like a god who worships you.
It’s another to see your partner as a living person, flawed, with her own mission and meaning on this earth. You find you’re not just on the same road—you are each other’s road.
Your union doesn’t just make you both stronger; it exposes weaknesses you’d otherwise hide. Trust, patience, and a hunger to grow are key. Then marriage becomes an alchemical vessel, its bubbling brew transforming both souls.
Yes, bubbling—tension, arguments, conflict. That’s how it should be. Two opposites collide. Each stumbles over the other’s differences, learning to embrace them in their partner, and so in themselves. And vice versa.
Joseph Campbell was right: “Marriage is a relationship. When you make the sacrifice in marriage, you’re sacrificing not to each other but to unity in a relationship.” Both see there’s something greater than either alone.
Together, you craft a cosmos from your shared chaos. It’s hard sometimes, painful, even bitter. No guarantees for tomorrow. But when your efforts align and it works, peace settles in your soul.
Sincerely yours,
-Alexander
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