Only now, 10–20 years later, do I understand the meaning behind my actions.
Take, for example, buying a favorite painting with an "abstract" theme. Or choosing a plant with an unusual shape for my home. The dynamics of my relationship with a business partner. The design of my offices. The name of my podcast. And so on.
Finally, everything is making sense and falling into place.
Why? Because of a methodical exploration of myself, nurtured by the wise and kind guidance of my therapist.
Breakthroughs, after all, happen both upward and downward in equal measure. Remember Ernest Hemingway’s words: “How did you go bankrupt?” Bill asked. “Two ways,” Mike answered. “Gradually, and then suddenly.”
All meaningful changes happen in a nonlinear way. Ostriches incubate their eggs for 35–45 days, seemingly in vain, and then—bam—a chick!
20 years ago, my eyes and hands performed certain actions, but my mind couldn't grasp their meaning. Just like an unborn baby in the womb doesn’t understand where it is, why it’s there, or how its limbs are forming.
Yet the immaturity of the mind doesn’t stop Life from moving the organism forward.
That’s why so many of our adventures and misfortunes often feel like random accidents, mistakes, whims of others, or coincidences.
But in reality the whole mess was cooked up by our hungry inner selves.
It’s fascinating how this new insight gives value to both what I’ve always been proud of and what I’ve been deeply ashamed of. Something within me has been expressing itself all along, but I could only accept certain forms while rejecting others.
When every experience and feeling finally finds its place, it’s almost absurd to think about how much I resisted, avoided, and agonized over them.
The shadow cannot block the sun. Darkness cannot stain the light.
It turns out, all that was needed for metamorphosis was:
Creating an atmosphere of acceptance for the whole self.
Choosing the right lens to study the phenomenon.
Finding words that precisely capture the essence.
How many mysteries still lie hidden within us?
Sincerely yours,
-Alexander
About me:
As a business therapist, I help tech founders quickly solve dilemmas at the intersection of business and personality, and boost company value as a result.
How can I help you?
If you've long been trying to understand what is limiting you and/or your business and how to finally give important changes a push, then The Catalyst Session is designed specifically for you. Book it here.