“For all the most important things in life, the timing always sucks,” wrote Rolf Potts, author of the “traveler’s bible”, Vagabonding: An Uncommon Guide to the Art of Long-Term World Travel. Most of us have inspiring dreams, usually in the form of vague outlines in a dense fog. They regularly remind us of them, in our youth with fervor, and as the years pass with growing reproach. “Eh, if it weren’t for A, I’d be busy making dreams come true today,” we tell ourselves, lamenting the long To Do list of work, family and household issues. “I’ll just finish the B’s and then…” - we lie to ourselves, for we know that C, D, E, F, etc. will come next. If only we could stretch out our hand, pluck it and taste it with pleasure, but no, we have to climb so high and risk falling to the ground.
Sometimes Providence surprises us with a sudden reshuffle of all the cards, which nullifies our past achievements, as well as our problems. With new cards in our hands, we can be much closer to our dreams than ever before. It seems time to act, but no. Immediately, like worms out of a can, worries G, H, I, J, K crawl out. In addition to the longing for the dream, there is also the fear that it will come true. It is a kind of sweet game of the noble victim of insurmountable events. On the one hand, the narcissism: “How bold and ambitious my dreams are. What a potential, huh?”. And on the other, the infantilism that avoids responsibility for the fiasco: “God knows, I really wanted to. But the conditions weren’t perfect.”
If the hidden enjoyment of the game is interrupted, then all that remains is the imperfect conditions. I think it’s designed that way for a reason. After all, if someone kneaded, baked, chewed, moistened with enzymes, and poured our dream down our, um, gullet, what, exactly, is our role? That’s right, nothing. It turns out that the greater the gap between the desirable future and the miserable conditions now, the greater Providence’s confidence in our ability to transform one into the other. It whispers: “Go for it! You are capable of much more”.
Sincerely yours,
-Alexander
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